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disabilityhistory:

Photos by Holly Spring of her daughter, who has no hand on her left arm and “struggled early on in life with Hirschsprung’s Disease.” 

Image description: Three ethereal, whimsical, artfully photoshopped photos of a young girl with pale skin and reddish-brown hair. The fact that she has no left hand is visible in the photos. In the first, she’s dressed in a purple dress with purple wings and a purple mask painted around her eyes. In the second, she’s wearing a white dress that becomes a net/sea at the bottom. In the third, she wears a green dress and balances on a piece of wood arising from a misty green pond surround by green trees and bushes.

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muscleluvr2:

the fact that women have to fake orgasms so that dudes who dont care about giving them orgasms dont have to feel bad about not giving them orgasms after making no effort to in the first place is ridiculous

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stereoculturesociety:

CultureHISTORY: #MikeBrown Funeral - August 2014 

  1. Mike Brown casket w/ St. Louis Cardinals baseball cap
  2. Brown’s mother Lesley McSpadden at her son’s service
  3. Attendees united in song
  4. Funeral attendees
  5. Memorial including long line of roses at Mike Brown’s murder site
  6. A painting & memorial from Atlanta, GA

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morrowseer:

Can we please stop making fun of people who are over 20 and are still virgins

Can we please stop making fun of people who are not interested in sex/are repulsed by sex

Can we please stop making fun of people who aren’t interested in a sexual or romantic relationship

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"BUT CONSENT"

radicalmayhem:

Just so we’re clear about this: consent doesn’t make it okay.

I’ll repeat that. Consent does not make sexual violence okay.

To illustrate this point, let me tell you a little story about a man named Armin Meiwes. Mr. Meiwes, a German man, has some peculiar interests. That is to say, Armin Meiwes has a sexual fetish for cannibalism.

In the early 2000s, Armin Meiwes posted an ad on a cannibal fetish website, seeking a “young, fit male, 18-30 years old, to be slaughtered and then consumed.” A man named Bernd Jürgen Armando Brandes answered the ad. As far as anyone can tell, Brandes was an otherwise normal man in a healthy state of mind when he consented to be murdered and eaten.

On March 9, 2001, Meiwes and Brandes got together to act out their fantasies. After attempts to bite off Brandes’ penis proved too difficult, Meiwes amputated Brandes’ penis with a knife and sauteed it with oil and spices. They tried to eat it together while Brandes bled out in the bathtub. After Brandes lost consciousness, Meiwes slaughtered him like an animal, kept his body parts in the freezer, and “ate parts of him for the next ten months.”

Meiwes, as you may have guessed, is doing life in prison on a murder charge. But why? After all, Brandes consented to the whole thing. He volunteered. Theoretically, Brandes was enjoying the situation as much as Meiwes. If consent makes violence okay, why is Armin Meiwes in prison?

Kinksters, this is the logical conclusion to your reasoning. By your logic, Armin Meiwes was falsely imprisoned, martyred, even, by the vanilla oppressors. Instead of being locked up, he should be out teaching classes on how to practice cannibalism the RACK way! 

After all, he’s not dangerous. He only slaughters and eats people who consent. What he does in the privacy of his own home is nobody’s business, right?

Wrong. This example is extreme, but the facts remain that what you do IN the bedroom has consequences OUT of the bedroom. Abuse is abuse, and murder is murder, no matter how much leather you dress it up in. Violence doesn’t stop being violence just because you consent to it.

Of course, you’re still welcome to believe that consent is the end of the conversation. Just know that Armin Meiwes, the Rotenburg Cannibal, agrees with you. 

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Anonymous asked: I think what that question means is like... Idk I don't think ppl think ppl with disabilities are Risky I think the thing is that they're asking themselves could they take care of said disabled person if it came to that. Like esp if ur physically disabled u may have serious health issues and I don't think u should date someone that has the possibility to be very unwell if ur just gonna dump them when they get unwell

disabilityhistory:

Wooooow. Here is Ableism 101, right here, in response to this

I don’t know that this even deserves a response, but here goes.

Many disabled people do not require any “special” care from partners. Many abled people do require “special” care from partners. Most good relationships, romantic or otherwise, are built on some degree of interdependence, wherein each person provides the other with love, care, and assistance in a generally egalitarian way.

Disabled people often overcompensate for the things we “can’t” do, yet our contributions are undervalued

For disabled people who need significant daily care, we would generally prefer that that not come from one person/partner, for the same reason that it’s dangerous for anyone to be completely reliant on one person: it’s setting us up for abuse. Sometimes we don’t have a choice. But we are working toward independent living and making sure that everyone has the resources they need to live independently, regardless of whether they have a romantic partner, sibling, parent, friend, etc. to care for them.

But if that’s what you’re afraid of, I’ve got news for you: anyone can become disabled at any time. Anyone can get very ill. Dating the healthiest, most abled person you see is no guarantee of anything.

It’s a serious fucking problem that you hear “disability” and think "burden," in a post about how that conflation is wrong.

Disabled people are not burdens. We are not burdens to society, we are not burdens to our friends, we are not burdens to our families, we are not burdens to our partners.

With that said, Anonymous, you don’t have to want to date us. I’d really rather you didn’t.

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musichealsus:

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Newbie Stuff

Choosing a Wheelchair (Video)

Hop, Pop, and Jump- #1 #2 #3 (Video)

How To: Talk To Your Doctor (Video)

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maintenance

Winter

Spoon Theory
Spoon Theory/Visual Spoon Theory

But You Don’t Look Sick

Spoonies:The online community for young people living with chronic illnesses.

Coping Skills for the Disabled and/or Chronically Ill

Pillow Fort

How to modify your home to make it friendlier 
wheelchair ramps that don’t look like wheelchair ramps 

Wheelchair Accessible Home (Video)


Products you might like
My fav on the go pill case
ePantry
PillPack

Chronically Badass: A Guide for the young and chronically ill 

Pillow Fort Magazine

New Mobility Magazine 

Wheelchair Accessible Tent 

Clothes Ect
-tips for dressing
-shoes
-bags backpacks purses

TV Shows/Online Shows/Movies/Books with wheelchair users

My Gimpy Life (Online Show)

Push Girls (TV show)

Push Girl (Book)

X-Men (Movies, TV show, Comics) (Professor Charles Xavier)

Family Guy (TV show) (Joe)

Avatar (Movie)

The Guild (Online show) (Venom)

General/Tips/Other

Wheelchair YogaWorkout 
Self Defence

transfermaster.com

functionality

Hiking Tips / Camping Tips

Service Dog 
DIY Blanket Nest
Use pill cap as pill cup
How to make a comfort box
When to use Heat or Ice
Anxiety & Panic Masterpost

Tip for manual wheelchair users. If feel yourself about to fall backward at any given moment, lift your head and tuck your chin into your chest. Yes, quick reaction may be necessary but this will save your noggin, trust me

Do you have any tips or links that isn’t on this list? Please feel free to leave a message in my Inbox and I will update the list.

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